To Deal with a Conflict

How do you often effectively deal with a conflict?

Would you like the rhythm of your heart to be calm?

Would you like the music of your soul towards harmony and fulfillment?
Then learn to deal with any conflict constructively to reduce stress, tension and other unwanted collateral effects.
Sharing you some strategies on how to deal with a conflict:
– take care of yourself & know well yourself
– clarify what personal needs threatened by the conflict
– identify a safe place and appropriate time for negotiation
– seek first to understand than be understood, listening skills is very important.
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“Don’t be noisy as tumultuous waves in a sea of changing tides nor the turbulent wind 
as well as those insistent arrogant tones when confronted by offensive and defensive individuals.
Instead let’s learn to know how to truly deep listen. Deep listening is based on unconditional love and respect.
When we listen deeply, we let go of any belief we have about the other.
We let go of our prejudices and past memories of him or her.
It is not defensive, argumentative or intrusive.
If we only use deep listening, this will allow us to:
– feel connected to the other person and be touched by her/him
– gain clarity and insights
– calm down and relax, find humility
– feel compassion for others
– heal hurts and misunderstandings
– truly hear the essence of what someone is communicating with his or her own words”
~ an excerpt from my memoir book, “Landscapes of a Heart, Whispers of a Soul

Sharing you a short video I made in Corsica about: Respect and Wonders of Deep Listening 

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 © Angelica Hopes All Rights Reserved. Photography, Arrangement & Graphics by Ana Angelica Abaya van Doorn
at my Wilhelm Steinberg piano, at home, April 13, 2012

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